Sad and Happy about Mom

doveAfter a week in hospice care, mom passed away on Christmas. It was incredibly difficult to navigate for a host of reasons, but I was glad my siblings had time to visit. Our goal was to keep mom comfortable. She will be missed, but unfortunately, I’ve been missing her for years as the dementia stole her away bit-by-bit.

I’m glad to know that she is now with dad and all of the suffering has ended. Conflicted.

18 thoughts on “Sad and Happy about Mom

  1. (Big Hug)

    My mantra has been this… No matter how ready you feel you might have been, and no matter how much relief this is to the suffering your mom has been through, you are never ready to lose your mother.

    It’s a slow process on the other side of this caregiving thing, healing afterwards, while grieving. Be kind to yourself at this time, and please accept my condolences on the loss of you mom.

  2. Dear Kay, I am so very sorry for your loss. You’ve had a long, painful journey which you have handled with such grace and enduring love. With sincere sympathy, Sheila

  3. I totally empathize. Everyone responds differently to a parent’s death, especially after long illness. There is no correct response. My thoughts are with you…

  4. Dear Kay, my heart, prayers and thoughts are with your family during this loss. You are a good and faithful daughter and you honored your parents with your care. It is obvious you put their best interests first even at times it was incredibly difficult to do so or even to wade through conflicting/limited medical info.
    You’ve blessed your whole family — your parents with care, your children with an example of diligent, loving care in the most challenging circumstances. Now, may God continue to bless you.
    Your post greeted me in my first moments back online after a difficult “Christmas” for my husband. I pray I can as faithfully care for him as you have for your parents.
    Your parents are together again united in love and peace, done with this part of their journey as you continue to move ahead in yours. May it be peaceful and and joyful. They want only the best for you.
    God bless you, Kathy S.

  5. Thank you for sharing your moms story along the way. It seems poignant that she passed away on Christmas. You took such good care of her. Hopefully you can take care of yourself and enjoy thinking of good memories with her. I will miss reading about her.

  6. My thoughts are with you and your family. As you have so eloquently documented in this blog, it has been quite the roller coaster ride as you managed care for both of your parents. Death is never easy, especially of a parent, but with dementia, there is a sense of peace that I felt my dad received when he passed from this world. I hope you can find some sense of peace and comfort over the coming months.

  7. So sorry for your loss. She is free of this awful disease. Marauders of peace and calm for you all until you meet again. 💖💖💖💖

  8. Kay, I am so sorry, my heart goes out to you. You have shared your journey with us and I hope you will let us share our support and sympathy. I hope that you find peace and that you know that you are an amazing daughter. My thoughts are with you.

  9. Christmas Day was your mother’s personal Independence Day. So difficult for the family, but knowing she has been released from the disease’s limitations on her body and her mind is a blessing you can hold dear to yourselves. I’m so sorry for your loss.

  10. I’m sorry for your loss and your sadness, Kay. I’m glad the family managed to visit and hope your mum’s passing was peceful. Even when we know it is going to happen, however much we are expecting it, in the end it seems such a sudden cutting of the thread between being here and not being here. You are in my thoughts.

  11. Dear Kay My thoughts are with you. We Are in Australia and won’t Be able to attend the service for you mom I hope you find comfort in knowing that you did as much As possible for her Love Liz

    Please pardon the spelling this is Sent from my iPhone


  12. Dear Kay. I am sorry for your loss. Thanks for sharing your/your Mum’s story – I have found it inspiring.

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