Many of you shared that after a few weeks or months, the changes your parent fought starts to settle in. After one of my parent’s doctors revoked their licenses using the DMV form that is offered and they continue to drive unlicensed and uninsured, we (the children) agreed to take action. My two brothers arrived and my parents handed over the keys. However, my parent’s memory is porous so after about two weeks, they were angry and the story became how my one brother forcibly took away their cars.
Once we got into month two, I just stopped the rebuttal of confabulated facts. It was suggested to me that we make the cars disappear so one of my brothers and his wife came to town and put both cars in storage. The repeated complaints that one of my brothers took their car keys has subsided – it is still a tale that rumbles around in my mom’s memory. When it comes up now, I just don’t respond on the topic.
So here we are and my last two visits with my parents were pleasant. Did I learn how to better manage, did they change or is some of both of those elements creating our new state? I am totally okay with this new place. Settled.