The Flood Gates were Unleashed

When my dad sent me a letter that made me feel like an ungrateful teenager all over again, I shared my hurt with my three siblings. Why the words in the letter were not horrific, it was the passive-aggressive nature of sending a letter to me to accuse me of a wrong that made me wilt.

My parents raised us with nightly debates at the dinner table. While we didn’t always agree, we were allowed to speak and have a discussion on our varied viewpoints. The letter just pierces me without warning and doesn’t give me an opportunity for defense.

While I’ve been reminding myself for two years they aren’t my parents anymore, I should have recognized this first as an act of a man who is not my father. I failed the logic test this week.

The result of this, however, was that my siblings all sent letters to my parents clarifying the situation. They are my big brothers and sister, so there was a wonderful amount of protection and love involved in these actions.

I’m sure my parents won’t exactly recall what it was that happened, but they are going to receive a full frontal assault – all in hopes of getting them to move into the retirement community full-time. Defended.

4 thoughts on “The Flood Gates were Unleashed

  1. It’s great that your siblings support you. Most of mine do not and the ones that do reside out of state. The responsibility to move your parents into the retirement community full-time is on you and your siblings. Your parents are INCAPABLE of doing this no matter how many letters you send. Stop sending letters – your parents won’t fully comprehend them and will forget all about it, anyway.

  2. Thanks for your thoughts “BYNT”. My observation is that most folks just can’t rationally and emotionally get to the point of taking that action (retirement community and/or taking the car/s) until there is an accident, injury, fall, or something similar. Having two parents to contend with seem 4 times as hard when they both continually “circle the wagons,” but I agree with your thoughts.

    1. Hi luvandrespect,

      I agree – most people don’t make the move until they get a big wake-up call like an injury, fall, etc. It’s hard – no doubt about it…but, it can be easier if you keep in mind what is better for the AD patient. My family is very dysfunctional. I wish we had the money to move Mom into a nice place where she’d be taken care of and be safe.

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